Ready for another one?
A few years ago, around the time Bean was born actually, I remember seeing a then three year old with a pacifier and thinking to myself, "That's ridiculous."
Fast forward four years.
Another, in my eyes, parenting fail.
Bean is over four years old now. Four years and two months to be exact.
We just, finally, got rid of her binkies this past weekend. She was completely dependent on them at bedtime and even at some points during the day when she needed to regroup a little. We kept saying we were going to get rid of them, but it was not a big deal, only at nighttime, my pregnancy, the birth of Blue, her being sick, me going away for a time, excuse, excuse, reason, reason... In the end, we knew it needed to be done but didn't want the headache of what it entailed.
I've never written about it here, I don't talk about it to others and I've gone to great lengths to get rid of binkies that showed up in pictures or in the background of our lives.
Why? Because I was embarrassed that we didn't address this sooner and we allowed it to go on for WAY, way too long. This has been a dirty little secret I haven't wanted to share.
This past weekend we had the official Binky Party that included cake and the cutting up of the binkies. At four years old, this is so long overdue, I can only hang my head in shame.
Bean is doing remarkably well with it though and although she has cried at bedtime the past two nights, she has fallen asleep without a major issue. She did tell me that "cutting up binkies is really hard."
So there we have it.
Parenting fail, parenting fail confessed.
Moving on.
7 comments:
I hope you really don't beleive that this is a parenting fail! EVERY parent does things that they feel might not be right but that work for them and theier family. You're an awesome mom and Bean is an awesome kid. I can garentee she would not have gone off to college with a paci!
PS. I would have paid money for my kids to take one and I'd still be jaming it in my 5 yr olds mouth multiple times a day!!
Allie was over three when I really decided "let's get this over with" and tried everything, well so I'd thought. Saving them for their new cousin, giving them to her baby doll...... always ended up crying for it at bedtime. Go figure, hubby took her out to buy a new blanket, and that was it. Such a strange age. (and then people complained as that was 'the key' in telling them apart)
We have all said we would not do something and then it happens. I have many, many parenting failures.
Congrats to Bean!!!
I wish I could trade Sammy's thumb for a soother!
Someday I will get around to giving up Charlotte's "ninky" as she calls it and this will be me. LOL
Good for you! Also, I don't find this a parenting fail at all. You listened to her need of that for comfort until she was finally ready to give it up.
Totally not a fail! I didn't quit sucking my thumb until second grade. It took another kid commenting about the huge water blister I had on my thumb for me to quit. It was how I would get myself to sleep.
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