Tot is beginning to ask for more grown up things. You know, cars, alcohol, money for tattoos I kid. But, she is asking for things like sleepovers and earrings.
The sleepovers aren't happening yet. I've put my foot down on that one. She's not emotionally or socially ready and neither am I. Playdates are enough work.
Now, the earring thing? We're considering it. I've always told her that she can't do it until she can show us that she is responsible enough to take care of them herself. My own rationale has been that I have enough of everyone else's stuff to do, I don't need to add "clean Tot's ears/ earrings" to my list. What I can say about her lately is that she is demonstrating more mature behavior. She gets dressed each morning on her own, she does her homework after getting home from school without a complaint, she brushes her hair and teeth on her own and without a fight... basically, she's demonstrating responsibility. Our last requirement for this was for her to stop sucking her thumb, and while she may revert back to some thumb sucking during the night, it has all but stopped during the day. It certainly looks like she's making some big effort here.
I got my ears pierced at eight. Whether I was ready or not, I'm not sure, but that's when my dad took me to the mall, against my mother's wishes, and got them pierced for me. I do remember them being painfully infected though at various points.
So, I wonder, what do others think? When is the right time to allow a child to get their ears pierced? Am I alone on this responsibility thing?